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Let's Get Physical

If someone were to ask you the question ‘what is your type’, in a relationship sense, what would be the first five things that come to mind?

[Write them down]

How much of what you thought of were physical aspects?

Do you believe that physical attributes play a part in physical attraction? All of you I’m sure, said yes. No doubt there is scientific evidence to support this.

But let’s delve deeper into physical attraction itself and what it is exactly that we are attracted to.

Our ideals of beauty are largely dictated by the media industry in which we are both consciously and subconsciously bombarded with on a daily basis. We all know this. But what you may not know is just how powerful the effect is.

Image by Tina Nikolovski

Model: Natalia Held

Makeup: Grace Commisso

Here are some facts about the brain and issues surrounding the world we live in:

[if !supportLists]1. [endif]The subconscious mind is more powerful than your conscious mind and is responsible for forming the pattens that outline your thoughts and behaviour. Therefore, the subliminal messages of perfectly photoshopped imagery, for example, enter the subconscious more rapidly (often without you even being aware) and play a massive role in how we perceive beauty, ourselves and others. They can form negative barriers in our minds based on the repetition of exposure that prohibit us from functioning at our optimal state and affect us in various aspects of our life: work, relationships, health and consciousness. Since we are driven by our emotions (our primate fight or flight responses) and the amygdala (the brain’s control centre) is largely responsible for our thoughts and actions, the above effect means that we can be constantly living out of fear which puts us in a state of dissonance. Our brain then in that state would continually aim to protect itself by being in ‘defence mode’, even to the point of distorting reality to preserve our ideals of what we think is real (cognitive dissonance).

[if !supportLists]2. [endif]Our ideals of beauty have changed over time, but the common denominators are an unhealthy fixation on our physical shell in order to drive consumerism. So no matter what the ideal body shape is at any point in time you will either be pushed to eat more, eat less, buy supplements, get botox, buy that item of clothing, whiten your teeth, get eyelash extensions, get butt fillers, get breast implants, remove your implants; because that’s how we perceive being beautiful and attracting a mate. It’s all external.

[if !supportLists]3. [endif]The illusion of reality - this is perhaps the biggest factor. I am a photographer myself so I know exactly how much a photograph can and does get distorted. The obvious issues surrounding this is we are consciously and subconsciously comparing ourselves to something that does not even exist!

[if !supportLists]4. [endif]Here is a not so obvious one. The focus on our external shell which is evident in every form that exists around us keeps the majority of us trapped on a secular, material plane, therefore exacerbating the ego, driving consumerism (a man-made concept), suppressing the desire to even think about or question bigger topics such as our existence and the existence of other life forms or reality in itself. It keeps us vibrating at a low level so that we are less likely to explore or push for higher states of consciousness, which means that we are much more easily controlled because we are forever seeking an unattainable version of reality rather than pushing boundaries and experiencing various types of reality and existence. It also prevents us from questioning how many senses we actually have and experiencing these senses and realising our own internal to external power, and thus the power that we possess to make change.

Here is an interesting question; how much do you think our attraction to physical attributes has to do with our ego vs our underlying natural instincts, AND; If we didn’t live in a world driven by a filtered reality and consumerism (and so heavily focused on one’s physical shell) do you think you would be attracted to the same things?